FOLDER OF LOVE

For Dave..."Our love is so real."

Okay ladies, I know you all think that men aren’t as sentimental as us women are. That while we save all the mementos of our love in a little box somewhere, our men are carelessly tossing those same mementos aside somewhere, possibly even just chucking them out! Being the eternal love optimist that I am, I just don’t buy it. I think men are just as sentimental as us gals, they just seem to feel the need to be more covert about it. Perhaps it is part of their cave man genetic make up. I’m not sure. But, over the years, over the past relationships of my life, I’ve found cards and notes I’ve showered on my loved one, along with other relationship memorabilia, in all kinds of places. Glove boxes (seriously!), underwear drawers, bathroom drawers, the backs of closets, laying around on desks with completely unrelated materials…well you get the picture. Maybe they don’t always keep it together, maybe they don’t always keep it all, but they do keep this stuff. Proof, I say, of male sentimentality. (I refuse to believe it is proof of male laziness or carelessness!) Maybe they don’t need a little box. Then again, you never know. Maybe they do have a little box full of mementos that you just don’t know about.

Yesterday, while Dave was re-formatting my computer we suddenly couldn’t find the Office software disc. While we “debated” where it was - Dave insisting I had it, me insisting he had it, I took it upon myself to start searching his place, since I knew I did not have it! In my search, I pull open a filing cabinet drawer and there it is, with all his other important files (work, taxes, etc), a file folder marked "FROM ANGE". My heart skipped a beat. I took a cursory peak and there it was…all the cards, notes and mementos of our relationship. I think he even had all the little notes that I tuck in his suitcase when he travels. It was a Folder of Love! While I’ve always known that Dave keeps that stuff, and while it’s no secret he’s an openly sentimental guy, it filled my heart with love to see that amidst work and taxes, the mementos of our relationship were important enough to warrant their own folder. It might not be as pretty as the box I keep all my mementos in, but the sentiment of that folder is the same.

So ladies, you just don’t know…your guy may have a file folder of mementos that you don’t even know about. And by the way, Dave did have the software at his place, proving yet again that I am always right!